Do you believe in SOULMATES?… Finding your one perfect match in this entire world?… The one who will complete you?…
A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul, which is thought to be the ULTIMATE SOULMATE.
We, girls, have a thought of our IDEAL MAN. We may have a different perspective or characteristics of this ideal man but all of us have our own idea of what we want with our lifetime partner. It may be a tall, dark and handsome or an intelligent, funny and chubby guy that you want…but how will you find him?? Go on a man hunt, post on tabloids, print on fliers, or what so ever. But really, how will you find your soulmate??????
Here are 3 simple but effective ways how to find your soulmate.
3 SIMPLE STEPS
1. Fix our eyes on the SOULMAKER
Who is our SOULMAKER? ….It is GOD. Since we are looking for our soulmate, who knows best about our soulmate of course the soulmaker. He knows that one person he made for us. We should first be in one with the God before anything else…it means we should know Him and have relationship. If we follow Him and obey His commands, he will also give the desires of our heart….given that it is according to His will and if this is what he thinks is best for us.
“Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4 NIV
2. Fix YOURSELF first
We should fix ourself! Sometimes, we have traumas in our previous relationships or from our childhood experiences. This issues, when not resolved, are baggage and they are burden. It sometimes seems we have forgotten those events or memories but the pain made is still there and engraved. If not resolved, we tend to carry it over to our next relationships. And this comes the problem..for example, from your previous relationship you were hurt because you were two timed, it will cause you to loose your trust. Then to your next relationship, everything he does will make you suspicious and doubt even there is none. Trust is really important in a relationship to work. Because your trust is not yet healed, you will carry it over.
How can you have a relationship when you still carry on with all your baggages??????
Another is when the reason of finding your soulmate is just to complete what is missing in you or filling the emptiness you are feeling. God should complete you! In Him, we find security, peace and love. For if we find our completeness in another person, we still cannot feel complete because all human being are imperfect and inconsistent. We tend to make mistakes and fall short. But God is perfect and consistent with His love for us. He loves us unconditionally even if we are not lovable.
In order for us to have a lasting relationship, we should be both complete in God. That if ever, a person leaves us we won’t be shuttered and broken into pieces for we know God completes us and nobody else.
Sometimes, we may find our soulmate already but because we are still not ready and we hurried things up because of our impatience, things go wrong and become a disaster rather than our happily ever after. We should pursue God first to help us be ready so that everything may go smooth according to God’s plan.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” – Jeremiah 29:11
3. Fix your STANDARDS
We have different standards in choosing or looking for our soulmate. We nay want intelligence, physical, values and etc. But we should base our standards in God’s standards. Our standards are just superficial. We want to have an ideal relationship but sometimes our standards are not. If we want to have a popular, somehow bad boy and eyed by all the girls…do you expect to have a working relationship??? I think not. Let’s say maybe not all but majority, those kinds of guys are the one’s who still loves to play around. And you want to be one of them???
If you base your standards according to God’s standard, surely you won’t make a mistake. What are God’s standard?? …Godly, Loves God more than you, and is God fearing. Surely, if he loves God more than you he will do everything to make things right, work-out and will truly love you.
This steps are simple but is very effective than any tips you can find out there. Why waste time in looking???? Why not focus on being prepared and ready when that soulmate comes.